Kamalamani - Therapist and mentor in Bishopston, Bristol
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Grief, loss and bereavement therapy with Kamalamani
"Death is outside life but it alters it: it leaves a hole in the fabric of things which those who are left behind try to repair" (Sally Vickers)
Endings
Facing death can be one of life's most devastating and transformative events. It can trigger a whole host of strong, sometimes overwhelming, emotions and responses. The person who would have provided comfort is often the person who is no longer with you, which can add to feelings of helplessness, stress, loneliness and isolation. Sometimes the loss of what might have been heightens our grieving. In our culture, we are often expected to 'get back to normal' and 'move on' within a shockingly (and unhelpfully) short space of time, following a bereavement. This expectation sometimes comes from those closest to us, who may find it hard to see us upset and suffering. And the death of someone isn't the only form of loss we experience in the course of our lives. Feelings of grief and loss can be triggered by a whole host of other life events.
"Death is outside life but it alters it: it leaves a hole in the fabric of things which those who are left behind try to repair" (Sally Vickers)
Endings
Facing death can be one of life's most devastating and transformative events. It can trigger a whole host of strong, sometimes overwhelming, emotions and responses. The person who would have provided comfort is often the person who is no longer with you, which can add to feelings of helplessness, stress, loneliness and isolation. Sometimes the loss of what might have been heightens our grieving. In our culture, we are often expected to 'get back to normal' and 'move on' within a shockingly (and unhelpfully) short space of time, following a bereavement. This expectation sometimes comes from those closest to us, who may find it hard to see us upset and suffering. And the death of someone isn't the only form of loss we experience in the course of our lives. Feelings of grief and loss can be triggered by a whole host of other life events.
How, when and why therapy might be useful
Coming to therapy can be supportive during times of bereavement. It provides a confidential space where you can bring yourself in the midst of your grieving process, where you will not be judged or hurried or expected to behave in a certain way. This space may also be useful if you have suffered a bereavement or loss of another form, such as:
• the loss of a job
• your home
• your health or vitality
• your peace of mind
• your marriage or relationship
• faith in your religious/spiritual beliefs
• a much loved pet
• loss of your home country or cultural home
• retirement
Coming to therapy can be supportive during times of bereavement. It provides a confidential space where you can bring yourself in the midst of your grieving process, where you will not be judged or hurried or expected to behave in a certain way. This space may also be useful if you have suffered a bereavement or loss of another form, such as:
• the loss of a job
• your home
• your health or vitality
• your peace of mind
• your marriage or relationship
• faith in your religious/spiritual beliefs
• a much loved pet
• loss of your home country or cultural home
• retirement
Through giving space and support to your natural grieving process, you may find that therapy gives you the chance to gradually restore your faith in life and make more sense of your purpose in starting to look forward. Please visit the Resources page, which lists useful contacts if you have recently been bereaved. Please contact me if you would like to talk through whether therapy would be supportive for you at present. Go back to the main therapy page. Click to explore bereavement links. Read Kamalamani's article reviewing different theories of grief.
